We’ve had to use a Band-Aid or two—give or take several thousand—to patch up knees and various scrapes and scratches. But we never expected that temporary bandage to do the actual healing, right?
There are lots of ways we try to help ourselves mentally and emotionally with a Band-Aid: A lot of you who have been to therapy and didn’t see the changes you wanted or you weren’t being challenged, or the coping strategies worked for awhile but eventually didn’t have any impact. Or maybe you attended a self-help conference. And you were excited, pumped up, and you even learned a few things. But once you got home, there was no sustainable change, and it didn’t really fix things. Or you read someone’s self-help book and it didn’t really apply to you.
Going through any or all of these efforts can be deflating and discouraging. But just because something worked for others and not for you, doesn’t mean you can’t have mental wellness. It just means you need someone to help you find your own way.
At Transform Through Therapy, we have developed our own approach that we believe helps people find mental wellness, while avoiding the constant temporary bandaging that leads to the same unhealthy situations over and over again.
We call it K.A.S.A.S.—Knowledge, Awareness, Skills, Application, Sticky Thoughts. It’s how we approach helping our clients find mental wellness. Here we’ll explain each phase and what you can expect from how we work with people looking for a new way to heal. Keep in mind that this isn’t linear. For lifelong mental wellness, there is no magic formula where if you do this and that you’ll be better. It’s a process that isn’t linear, but a circular pattern of re-evaluation and new discoveries.
Knowledge is at the base of everything we do. We believe this is especially true for those who are supporting others, whether that be parents caring for children with disabilities, or those supporting a loved one with addiction or mental illness. We want to arm you with knowledge of the issues you’re facing, why those are happening, and give you a full understanding of the situation.
This information will help you know what you need to do to get through whatever it is you’re facing.
Now you can take that knowledge and loot at how it can be applied specifically to your own life. Knowledge doesn’t mean a whole lot when you can’t see how it applies to you. The Awareness phase is a way to utilize knowledge to recognize things that we may have been blinded to, or see them in a new way.
When you participate in our online groups or even in one-on-one therapy, we teach you a variety of skills. We believe in having a variety of these skills and techniques so you can decide apply best to you and your situation.
Once you’ve learned skills, it’s time to practice. Everyone is different, and mental illness, addiction, and other issues look different in different people. What may work for one person, might not work for you and vice versa. We want to give you the opportunity to practice and test these skills in the real world, so you can see what really works and what doesn’t. This also gives you an opportunity to take a step back and optimize your approach.
Once you’ve done all that, and, like we said before, continue to re-evaluate and gain new understanding, it’s time to address your sticky thoughts.
What do we mean by sticky thoughts? These are the things that are limiting you in your progress, whether they be religious or cultural beliefs, fears, as examples. These are things that are ingrained in you, often for a long time. They “stick” to you.
So as you go through the K.A.S.A.S. process and calm the chaos and quiet the noise, that’s when you’re able to address these sticky thoughts through the aid and guidance of experts.
You can’t change certain things—other people’s behavior, or certain scenarios or situations, but with help, you can expand your view beyond these sticky thoughts and move forward.
Learning to Self Solve
When you think about a Band-Aid providing a temporary relief—a coping mechanism or strategy—that can be really important in a crisis to stop the flow of blood, so to speak. But if you don’t address the wound itself, you’re going to have to keep applying a new Band-Aid over and over again. It’s not going to really fix anything.
By addressing the wound, your own body is able to heal itself. And that’s what we want for you—to learn to recognize your internal voice and wisdom and self-heal. We help facilitate the skills necessary to do that—we want to teach you so you won’t need us anymore.
If you’re tired of temporary fixes and are looking for long-lasting mental wellness, check out our website and see if we might be the right fit for you.